My action, which led to his action landed us both in the
vice-principal’s office where he sat sullenly and I collapsed in tears. We were both suspended the next day, and the
boy was excused from the office while the confused vice-principal kept me
behind to try to further understand my actions.
I had no explanation for him and he eventually sent me to my final class
of the day where I got the first of many shocked reactions. “I can’t believe he hit you!” many of them
chorused.
The outrage only added to my misery. I could understand why he hit me and it felt
unfair for him to be cast as the wrong one.
We were pretty evenly matched, weight-wise—he was a rather compact
wrestler—and I hit him first. But I was
the girl and he was the boy and it was the general court of opinion’s view that
I shouldn’t have the black eye.
I’ve been thinking about this incident because of the
recent—and perhaps fatally damaging—news in the Portland Mayoral Campaign. We have already learned that candidate
Jefferson Smith never voted until he was in his late 20s, has had his driver
license suspended multiple times due to reckless driving, has been reprimanded
for fighting in his adult basketball league and has had his law license
suspended due to his inability to complete paperwork. The most recent way Mr. Smith has found his
way into the news cycle is the revelation that when he was an undergraduate in
college, he hit a woman at a party, causing her an injury bad enough that there
was a legal settlement.
The details have emerged from both sides. According to her, he was coming on to her all
night and wasn’t pleased when she gave him a firm no. She fell asleep on a coach and when someone—who
everyone agrees was someone other than Jefferson Smith—tipped over the couch
she assumed it was him and went after him.
According to him, he repeatedly tried to stop her from coming at him
before he struck her in the face and causing stitches above her eye which led to
the settlement. He refers to it as one
of the worst nights of his life and had said he is still very sorry. She, still apparently pretty pissed after
twenty years, points out that him stopping by her house in the wake of the revelation of
the news violates a no contact order Smith had agreed to in the initial
settlement.
We’ve heard a lot of things about Jefferson Smith during
this campaign, but this is the one that has caused him to lose a few critical
endorsements.
My take? It sounds
like they were both drunk at a party and neither had very good judgment at the
time. Is it right for someone who is
bigger than another person to hit them?
It’s not the best option. But if
they won’t let up? I can see why,
through the haze of alcohol, it probably seemed like the best choice at the
time. The linchpin here, of course, is
gender. He was the man, he was much
bigger, he had been coming on to her, he should have known better. If the roles were reversed there wouldn’t be
a story at all. However, she had a role
in this too. If you are accusing someone
of something, maybe get your facts straight before you fly off the handle. In her version of the story Smith comes off
as pretty oafish and skeevy and he probably was. But she said no to his advances and he backed
off enough that she felt comfortable to not only stay at the party but to fall
asleep on the couch.
And after the event?
Smith (or his family) settled up, paid the fine and he followed the
agreement to not contact her, at least until the agreement was made
public. He has said he is sorry to her
and to us.
So I’m good with that.
I will still vote for Smith, though I think he’s not going to win. Because here’s the deal. For every single one of these revelations
about Jefferson Smith the candidate—and there have been many—Jefferson Smith
the man has said some version of, “Yep.
I did that. It totally sucks, I
had bad judgment and I’m sorry.”
His opponent, former City Council member Charlie Hales, has
had a number of blunders of his own. He
plagiarized an article, implying that he had attended an event that he had not
attended. He lived in Washington for
several years and continued to vote in Oregon.
He left his city council term before completing it so he could become a paid lobbyist. Because chose not to complete his term so he could
take a more lucrative job, the city of Portland held a special election and
those things don’t come cheap. He also illegally
taped an interview.
Hales’ response to these blunders? He blames his staff (the letter,) the fact
that he wanted to sleep with his wife at night (the voting) or that he had kids
to put through college (the lobbying).
He doesn’t say he’s sorry, he just plows ahead with his “it was the
past” attitude.
And that attitude I’m done with. Both men’s policies are pretty much the same,
but only one man can take responsibility for his actions. That’s the man that has my vote.
This is an interesting post. I like hearing your thoughts on this issue. I've seen a few posts on my FB feed from people who've said they were no longer voting for Jefferson over this particular incident. It seemed strange to me. If people knew about all the stupid things I did when I was in my early 20s, they probably wouldn't think very highly of me either. I feel like we need to give people the chance to grow, mature, and change.
ReplyDeleteI'm actually tangentially acquainted with Jefferson (he's friends with my ex, so I met him on multiple occasions). He's been destined to be a politician for a long time. It's in his blood. I feel sorry for him that his campaign got scuttled by this.
I've been keeping my eye on him for awhile now and I think he still has a political future. I think we will see him again in another five or ten years.
ReplyDeleteAnd yes. I think we are in a collective "he who is free of sin cast the first stone" sort of situation about this incident.
ReplyDeleteWhat was the outcome? How did he do in the election? This is a very well reasoned essay. I appreciate your insight and sharing about your former slugger ways (;)). I agree, there are some things in our past that should not make or break us anymore. Since I live near the capital of this sort of mudslinging and past dredging up, I find it especially interesting and rather sad.
ReplyDeleteHe lost. He only got 30% of the combined vote. I think he will be back again, though. He is quite young and very politically minded.
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