Except for a brief resurgence in 2008, when I pledged to
write one letter per day for the entire year (and mostly met my goal) my era of
letters came to a close at the end of the last century, when email accounts
became ubiquitous and communication became instant. Here’s what happened. My letter writing
dropped off tremendously. Friends from
high school and college who were regular correspondents of the page became
correspondents of the email. At first,
letter-like emails were exchanged. Eventually
that correspondence faded as email’s true nature came to light: a quick way to arrange details. An unfit way, really, when you get right down
to it, to exchange the longer narrative form that is the letter.
And I’m here to say I want the letter back. I want regular correspondences with
people. And I propose the following
guidelines to encourage correspondence.
1. Your letter is
interesting. Whatever you write about in
a letter? It’s pretty interesting. This is the magic of the letter. When someone has taken the time to transcribe
something on paper, find an envelope, address and stamp the envelope, and get
the whole thing in the mailbox, the contents of the letter automatically become
more interesting than if we were chatting or emailing. So you could only think to describe your
errand-running for the day? In letter
form this is fascinating, I kid you not.
Don’t wait around to write a letter because nothing is going on. Are you reading a book? Have you seen a movie lately? Are you excited about a TV show? Put it in the letter. Your life is happening all the time, so why
not share it in letter form?
2. Make them
short. I myself am guilty of going on
and on in letters because I tend to blather about whatever quite easily (see
point number one), but I have decided to turn over a new leaf because short
letters are easier to respond to. If you
have a collection of notecards Great Aunt Ethel gave you, get out one of those
and start writing. When you’ve filled up
the notecard, you are done. Although if
you are really going strong, I say you can add one more sheet of paper. But not much more than that. Aim for some general chit-chat (again, see
point number one) and one or two questions for the recipient and call it a
day. Or, see if your letter friends want
to exchange postcards. Those are even
shorter, and cost less to mail.
3. Respond quickly. See how point three builds on point two? If you are just dashing off a quick note
(which will be interesting to the recipient—remember point number one) you have
many more opportunities to dash off that letter than you will if you plan to
write something much longer. And when
you respond quickly (and with a short letter) it’s more likely that your letter
companion will also respond in kind. I
would say try and respond within a week of receiving the letter, though sooner
is even better.
4. Have a letter
system worked out. When I wrote a letter
per day I had a letter box which held my main correspondents’ addresses, as
well as notecards, postcards, stamps, a favorite pen and some return address
labels. That way the “hardest” thing I
had to do was find a mailbox when I was done writing. When you have to find the pen and find the
notecards and turn on the computer for the address and go to the store for a
stamp and an envelope it’s likely that you will not get that letter out the
door very quickly. Spend a few minutes
organizing yourself and your correspondence will be much easier. Also try to automate the most odious task of
letter-writing. For me that’s writing
return addresses, so I have pre-printed labels to stick on. Maybe you hate addressing envelopes? You might try what Matt’s mom does. She runs full pages of labels with Matt’s
address information and sticks them on the many letters and postcards she mails
him.
Are you excited to reclaim the letter from the detritus of
the twentieth century? Great! Get out your pens (or computers. I’m not
opposed to receiving letters written on computers and then printed and mailed
if that’s what works for you) and write.
If you would like to engage in regular letter correspondence
with me, write a comment of how to get a hold of you and we can work out
details. Note also that I’m not opposed
to an in-town correspondence. It’s so nineteenth century, it’s cool!
I'm in! I'll try to make my next one shorter though. :)
ReplyDeleteWe have done pretty well in this area, right? I think I write to you THE most of anyone else I know. But I could use to follow the rules a bit more. I am rather loquacious and can't seem to find a cure for that! :)
ReplyDeleteJan. Yes, I got your letter and thought, "Oh no! She's going to read my essay and think her letter is too long." But it wasn't! I really enjoyed it. I'm always happy to get long letters, but I'm going to try and write shorter letters myself because I think they are easier to answer. But I'm so darn chatty.
ReplyDeleteSara. Yes indeed I would say we have. I think you are the person I get the most letters from. And they are always such fun.